Frugal Idea #26: Speak up

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One of my favorite No Doubt songs is “Don’t Speak”. However, I have learned to “Speak Up” to save money.

In November, I will be part of the wedding party for two really great friends. It is always an honor to be asked to be a groomsman and it will be my second time being part of a wedding. It is a given that once you say yes to the honor, you will accrue some inevitable financial responsibilities. There is the infamous bachelor and bachelorette party (had an amazing time in New Orleans, Louisiana!), your costs related to tuxedo rental and dresses, travel accommodations, and of course hotel stay.  I envision a night filled of celebration Jameson or Hennessy shots and as a huge believer in never drinking & driving, I wanted to take advantage of the convenience of the overnight stay. Here are a few ways I have saved and will save for the upcoming celebration:

1. Take advantage of the discounted hotel rooms. The bride and groom will typically send a “Save The Date” memo, an invitation, or a link to their wedding website with hotel accommodation information. They usually will have blocked off a certain amount of rooms at a discounted rate. Do not wait until the last minute! Do not assume that rooms will be available. For example, this wedding will be in wine country with a more limited list of hotel choices, so they have chosen three hotels; two in close proximity and one where the actual reception will be held. The most convenient hotel may get full, so you will then have added costs with travel to and from the other hotels.

2. Plan ahead and increase your budget. I hate to miss a party, so I knew I wanted to participate in the bachelor party. Whatever amount you have budgeted for yourself (food to eat, dinners, drinks, entertainment, etc.), you might want to consider adding 50% of total costs on top of your personal budget. You definitely want to have enough to treat the groom with his dinner, a drink, etc. Typically, you may share some costs with the entire party. You do not want to stress about sharing costs when the time comes.

3. Sharing is caring. Although the rooms are discounted, I wanted to share the space to avoid paying the full cost. I asked close friends who were also attending the wedding if they wanted to share my room and I found three people to do so. Not only are we saving money, but we all are excited to share some time together. Extra cushion in the budget allows for a bottle to share in the room. =)

4. Speak up! Lastly, this is the most important tip. I feel when it comes to finances, many people do not want to speak up in fear of embarrassment or being judged. It is ok to speak out on what you can and can not afford. We all have different financial situations & priorities.  We can not expect everyone to be on equal financial footing. During the planning of the bachelor party, I knew there would be some extensive planning to be done as I did not know anyone in the party except the groom. After back and forth messaging via Facebook on ideas, the budget increased and increased. I had to speak up on my expectations on what I can spend. Surprisingly, it opened up more conversation and finalized in a realistic itinerary. It had worked and I think there was a sense of relief for all.

The wedding will be amazing and I look forward to investing in memories for a lifetime!

Speak Up Blog - Wedding Savings

About the blogger:


Neville (Nev) Bendiola grew up in the Mission District of San Francisco, California until the age of 10 before relocating to Sacramento, CA.  Growing up in a low income family, he slept on the floor most of his young life until he got his own twin size bed at the age of 10 – a memory he will always remember. Nev relocated back to San Francisco for college where he continued on in a career in Staffing Sales and Recruiting. Achieving financial success, he spent more than he earned using credit cards along the way. He found himself  carrying debt through the recent recession. Inspired by friends and reading success stories online, Nev moved into a Studio apartment in San Francisco’s Tenderloin district where he minimized his spending and material items. He is currently focused on saving money and sharing the ride with his readers along his journey to financial freedom.



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